Let’s read some books!

The chemotherapy-induced neuropathy in my hands has forced me to make a lot of changes. I love cooking and baking, doing arts and crafts, and playing video games, but I haven’t been able to do those things since my first treatment. To keep myself busy, I’ve had to fill my time with some of my older hobbies that I haven’t made as much time for over the past few years.  Mostly, I’ve been reading.

Right now, reading is exactly what I need.  I’ve been avoiding physical books because they’re hard for me to hang on to, but my iPad mini and Kindle are easy on my hands.  Books are also a great value for entertainment media: even if I’ve spent a bit more than what I should on them recently it’s pretty tough to get yourself into financial trouble by buying books, especially since I’m a fairly slow reader.  Even better for my budget right now is the fact that I’m able to borrow free ebooks from the library.  It’s a little tough to wait for the numerous holds on popular titles, but easy and free are worth it.

As I said above, I haven’t spent a lot of time reading books over the past few years.  I’m currently on track to read 7 books in April which is, on average, a little more than I’ve read per year since I graduated university.  This has definitely been a source of embarrassment. I’ve always seen myself as a reader and for most of my youth, reading was my main hobby. As I got older, I slowly found myself reading published books for fun less often. I think there were several reasons for this.  Mostly, I struggled with finding my identity as an adult reader. With world of books being so enormous, I had trouble finding well-written, contemporary fiction that suited my taste and I didn’t always enjoy slogging through well-known classics.  I would stick with one or two authors for awhile and then have no idea where to go when I had read all of their work that interested me.

University also took a lot of the fun out of reading.  As a history major I would often have upwards of 600 pages of reading (or more, especially if it was time for term papers) per week. It wasn’t fun, easy reading: so much academic writing is dry and boring and remarkably difficult to slog through, even if the subject matter is interesting. The last thing I wanted to do with my free time was read more, even if reading fiction was more fun than reading academic non-fiction.

After finishing my undergraduate degree, I started my long and strange journey of being intentionally single and trying new things.  I started playing video games. Video games led me down a path toward a lot of new (to me) media, like manga and anime. For a good while, I wanted to immerse myself in those new interests and give myself the time to enjoy them. This didn’t leave me with a lot of room for reading published books (though I did read lots of fanfiction, but that’s another story for another day).  It’s hard for me to admit it, but books just sat on the back burner for awhile.

Being absorbed in reading again has been wonderful, like settling in for a lovely afternoon with an old friend.  The ONTD reading challenge that I decided to participate in has been especially fantastic.  I have the freedom to choose any book that fits each month’s theme, but I’m also forced to try out authors and genres that I normally wouldn’t consider reading on my own.  Best of all, the participants all make loads of recommendations each month, which has helped me make some fun new discoveries!

In some ways, one of my greatest struggles as an adult has been balancing my free time.  There are so many different activities that bring me joy that I often have trouble choosing what I should do on any given day.  I hope that once my condition improves and I return to work that I’ll be able to make room in my life to continue reading.  I won’t have as much time as I do now, but I’ve realized that it’s a hobby I should keep up with.  I certainly have enough recommendations to keep me going for a good long while!

Are there any interests or hobbies that you aren’t making enough time for?  What books are you reading right now?  Let me know in the comments!

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Cancer/Life Update: Neuropathy and disability application woes

It’s been an interesting few weeks and I’m totally behind on writing because I’ve been sick, so I figured I’d scrawl out a quick and dirty update about how I’m doing.  I also just wanted to quickly note that, due to illness and my boyfriend’s visit, I won’t be doing a goal review post for March.  Everything’s been a bit on hold recently and I think there will be more value in evaluating my progress in April.

Chemotherapy fucking sucks.  There really isn’t any nice way of saying it.  Whenever people ask me how I’m doing, I cock my head to one side and say “eeeeeh.”  I’m surviving and I’m putting one foot in front of the other but, to be honest, chemo just gets worse the further into it you get and that’s hard to explain to folks who don’t have first hand experience.  You feel hopeful, because the number of treatments you have left keeps getting smaller, but you also know that you feel a helluva lot worse than you did when you first started and that you’ll feel even more shitty by the time you’re finished.

I’ve had 8 chemotherapy treatments so far.  If all goes well, I have 4 remaining.  I hope that I won’t need any further treatment after those 4 infusions are completed, but even if I finish there, recovery is not going to be quick or easy.  I’ve been thinking more and more about recovery and survivorship recently and I’m more than a little scared.  When I first started chemo, I knew nothing about long term side effects and I thought that, if all went according to plan, I would be back at work soon after finishing treatment.  The neuropathy in my hands and feet says otherwise.

I’ve said before that the neuropathy in my hands has been a bit better.  This is partially due to the fact that my dosage of Vinblastine (the drug that causes the neuropathy) was reduced by 20%, but it’s mostly behaviour modification.  Sometimes I wish I could show folks how my hands feel, but basically my fingers are numb and tingly, like they’re asleep all the time.  This doesn’t bother me when my hands are at rest, but when I touch something, I can feel the tingling.  My grip strength has been greatly reduced and these symptoms worsen the more I use my hands.  If I type too much or work too much doing anything with my hands, the numbness increases and I have pain in my hands, wrists and forearms.  I’ve had to stop knitting, colouring, doing any arts and crafts, and playing most video games.  I can’t really cut tougher foods like steak without help and eating with chopsticks has become difficult.  I’ve also limited myself to cooking very simple dishes, though fortunately my mum has stepped in to take over most of the major meal prep: chopping and peeling for any length of time is nigh impossible.

My feet have also been showing signs of neuropathy, but it’s mostly been showing up as stiffness, pain, and cramping. This has worsened a great deal over the past few weeks and has limited what I can do in terms of physical activity — even just walking seems to make the nerve pain flare up.  I’ve been having these issues to a much lesser degree for some time now, but I would only get random sharp pains and a bit of stiffness — these days it’s far more frequent and consistent.  The pain is difficult to treat because it isn’t consistent and doesn’t respond to basic pain killers, such as Tylenol.  Due to my behaviour modification, I’ve been able to avoid medical cannabis so far, but I think I may have to go in that direction soon.

I don’t have any moral issues with using medical cannabis, but I will have difficulties paying for it.  My short term EI illness disability ended in early February and I have been without income since then.  I do have some support from my parents, but my long term disability application is in bureaucratic limbo hell.  I had been on my company’s benefits plan for just short of 1 year prior to my hospitalization.  As such, it’s standard procedure for my benefits provider to conduct a huge investigation to determine whether my illness was a pre-existing condition.  In order to conduct the investigation, my benefits provider had to request my complete medical history from the provincial government and my family doctor.  The records recently came in from the provincial government, but my family doctor’s office has completely dropped the ball on sending my records to the insurance company and there is a ridiculous dispute going on between the two about the cost of forwarding my records.

Given that I will likely be away from the office for substantially longer than I had previously imagined, the idea that I might not have any income for the majority of that time is extraordinarily stressful.  I have bills that need to be paid, medications that need to be purchased and a life that needs to be maintained.  Waiting around for someone to investigate whether or not you’re trying to scam them by claiming you have cancer is insulting and heartbreaking and not being able to support myself financially makes me feel like I have even less control over my life right now than I actually do.

I’m hoping that all this will be resolved soon, but something tells me that the long term disability application is going to continue to be a huge thorn in my side for quite some time.  I wish I could find more information about how to approach my claims specialist, but I really have no idea whether I should be verbally stomping on her neck or if I should try to be nice so she doesn’t stall my claim even further.  I don’t really want to get a lawyer involved.  If anyone has any experience with this sort of thing, please feel free to contact me privately — I’m interested in hearing your story.

I have a PET scan scheduled for tomorrow, which I hope will give us all a better idea of how my treatment is progressing.  I should have the results by the end of next week and will update when I can.

 

Chemotherapy side effects and invisible disability

I don’t feel like writing today. In fact, I’ve been planning my schedule so that I don’t need to write on the weekends at all (as I am writing this, it’s Saturday, January 13th). I’ve been trying my best to write one week ahead of schedule, but everything this week has been a struggle and so here I sit on Saturday completing work that should have been finished several days ago.

I have neuropathy in my hands. This is a common chemotherapy side effect that I, and I think probably most people, knew nothing about prior to being diagnosed with cancer. My fingertips, in particular, are numb and tingly and every time I push a key on my keyboard, it feels like they’re asleep. My hands themselves are also very weak — I have almost no grip strength and have trouble hanging on to most objects for any length of time. If I spend too much time typing or holding any objects, the muscles in my arms start to ache and I’m at risk of dropping what I’m holding.

This has diminished my quality of life considerably. I was hoping to indulge in a lot of my hobbies during my time away from work and that is impossible for me now. I can’t knit, I can’t do any crafts, and I can’t colour. Writing in my journals has also become difficult and I usually have to cut myself short because of the discomfort. I haven’t tried playing a lot of controller-based video games, but I am going to assume that I won’t be able to play them for long sessions as using my 3DS has been okay only in short bursts.

The neuropathy is also limiting where and how I can travel. Earlier this week I decided to go on an outing downtown to shop at a Japanese dollar store that sells Daiso products. I brought a takeaway coffee on the train with me and realized after one stop that I wouldn’t be able to hold on to the coffee for the whole trip downtown. I decided to get off the train and run another errand closer to home first, mostly so that I could throw the coffee away.

On my way home, I had another realization: what happens if I can’t get a seat on the train? If I can’t hang on to my coffee for more than a few minutes, how am I going to keep myself steady hanging onto a post while standing on the train? I had happened to sit in a seat reserved for the elderly and people with disabilities. At every station I nervously glanced around to see if anyone who would need my seat had entered the car. I didn’t know how I would manage if I had to give up my seat, but I also didn’t think I would be able to explain why I needed a seat so desperately. Right now, I look fine. My hair has been thinning a little bit, but not so much that anyone would notice and I have no other visual side effects. Everything that is wrong with me is completely invisible.

I won’t be taking public transit for now. In some respects this is probably for the best. During chemotherapy you are extremely vulnerable to infections and getting sick can delay your treatment significantly. We all know that public transit is a great place to catch a cold or the flu, so it’s probably a good idea to avoid it, but it’s shitty to feel like my treatment is limiting my life to this extent. My boyfriend and I had planned to go out for a fancy dinner downtown at a restaurant, where an old friend of mine is the executive chef, to celebrate my birthday when he’s next in town. Those plans are on hold indefinitely.

Unfortunately, I’m not sure if there’s anything that can be done about the neuropathy. I will be talking with my oncologist before my next treatment about lowering my dosage of the drug in my protocol that causes neuropathy (vinblastine), but I’m not sure how this may affect my treatment over the long term. I know that the neuropathy will likely go away within a few months of my completing treatment, but I am concerned that it may continue long after the fact, particularly since it seems to be quite severe for me.

I could say more, but to be honest, it’s painful for me to keep typing. Please keep in mind that my capacity to chat online and respond to comments is diminished at the moment. I’m trying to keep up with things as best I can and I appreciate your patience!